Leadership Through Compassion

By Megan Gilbert

 

"Whether I shall turn out to be the hero of my own life, or whether that station will be held by anybody else, these pages must show."

 - first sentence, David Copperfield, by Charles Dickens

 

Whenever someone asks a child what he or she wants to be when they grow up, the typical response is “a fireman,” or “a lawyer,” or occasionally even “a garbage man.” The answer is always a particular profession or specialty, never a trait or quality like “a virtuous woman” or “an honest man.” Why is it that society determines a person’s worth based on what happens between 8:00 a.m. and 5:00 p.m.? For many in our society, success in life is all about how we appear and not about who we are on the inside.

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As children, we like to imagine what we will eventually become.

 

Even in our childhoods, we are ingrained with the idea that our lives amount to what job we eventually hold, how successful we are, and what type of lifestyle we live. We are never asked what kind of life we wish to lead or what characteristics we will strive to possess. As a young girl, I told people that I was going to be a doctor. As I discovered my love of children and my desire to bring healing and comfort to them, I started telling people that I was going to become a pediatrician. But now, it is no longer sufficient to just be a pediatrician; I strive to be something more. What good is a doctor if he or she is not kind and compassionate with a strong sense of what is right and wrong? A doctor who only thinks of himself as a doctor “cuts [himself] off access to empathy, potentially a source of great comfort and counsel”4 and becomes no more than a bearer of bad news and an executioner of hope. As I continue on my journey to “creating myself,”5 I want to cultivate my compassion and empathy for others. I still want to be a pediatrician, but I want to be seen as a “good person” first. A “good person” is one who is altruistic and compassionate and works for the common good of the people they wish to inspire and lead.

            As a doctor, compassion is necessary to present patients with what needs to be done about their medical condition, and, most importantly, to give them hope for a healthy future. Not only do I want to develop a doctor’s concern for her patients, but I also want to foster compassion for those I meet on a day to day basis. I want to be able to interact with people from all ethnic, medical, and religious backgrounds and encourage their personal growth as individuals who will come to be leaders in their own right. My guidance will be in the form of compassion – one that inspires others to reach inside themselves and find their own inner strength and leadership abilities.

A doctor must be more than just a good diagnostician. 6

 

This summer, I will be given the opportunity to affect those who come behind me and hopefully inspire them to do the same. Starting in May, I will be implementing my leadership through compassion as a staff member at Camp John Marc, a camp that gives children with special medical needs a chance to have a real camp experience. Children come in each week with different conditions such as spina bifida and muscular dystrophy to swim, participate in the challenge course, ride horses, and simply be children. I wish to take this summer to practice my compassion and to pack their week with joy and love, laughter and good memories. I want to show these children that they are an important and that their medical conditions do not define who they are. I want to show them that just because they bodies may be affected by genetics and disease, their spirits do not have to be.

 

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For the children at Camp John Marc, their week of camp will be one in which they learn who they are on their own, away from watchful parents. 7

 

In my position as counselor, I will be able to pass on the compassion and leadership abilities that I learned as a camper from my counselor and role model, Stephanie Jordan. When I attended summer camp as an elementary and middle schooler, Stephanie was always the one counselor that everyone loved. She was the leader that gave everyone the confidence to have fun being themselves. Stephanie was loud and energetic, funny and caring. She was the one that everyone wanted to be around, the one that everyone wanted to imitate. Each year, Stephanie brought a smile to my face and showed me that I can do anything that I truly wish to achieve. It is now my turn to be that counselor, my turn to affect children a few years younger than me, my turn to be a leader and impact the future. I want to show every child that steps foot on the campgrounds of Camp John Marc that they can become whatever their hearts desire. I want to show them that they have a fountain of potential hidden beneath the surface just waiting to be discovered.

                

Camp counselors are instigators of growth and leadership in their campers. 8

 

One of the aims of Camp John Marc is to provide these children with a chance to be on their own for a week, out from the watchful eyes of their parents and caretakers. In a sense, they are “free to simply to be.9 During this week, they must form relationships with other campers and counselors on their own, overcome challenges, persevere, and in essence, find out who they are separate from the stigma of disease and protective parents. As they search for themselves, I will be there to encourage their growth, to help them when they stumble, and to praise them when they triumph. This will be an important week in each child’s life, a critical period in which their character will begin to be formed and specific qualities will emerge. I plan to encourage their growth as strong, compassionate individuals who put others before themselves and aspire to being out the best in others. As the Activities Director, I will be teaching the campers to play volleyball and other sports, showing them how to make a certain craft, and teaching them to play crazy games like toilet tag and sharks and minnows. Through these activities, I will be able to demonstrate my concern for their well-being and consideration for others. In each activity, I will set an example of good sportsmanship, which is a starting point from which to enhance the children’s concept of compassion. It is through these small, everyday activities that care and consideration become a natural part of daily life and make these children more compassionate towards their fellow man.

As a leader, I want to encourage qualities in those that follow after me that make them good people, full of kindness and mercy. But most importantly, I want to show the people I come into contact with and the campers of Camp John Marc that is not how much money you make or whether you wear designer clothes that define who you are. It is your compassion for others and how you affect them that matters. This summer, I will have the opportunity to guide hundreds of children to encounter the best that they have to offer and the opportunity to better my leadership through compassion. It will be a stepping stone – a marker that I must pass on my way to becoming a caring and concerned doctor. The compassion that I learn this summer will be one that furthers and enriches lives; it will inspire.

 

 

Endnotes:

           

1. Image from www.tinypineapple.com.

2. Image from championcarnival.en.alibaba.com. 

3. Image from nacho.princeton.edu.

4. Ram Dass and Paul Gorman. How Can I Help? (New York: Alfred A. Knopf, Inc., 2005), 26.

5. Quote found on Professor Bump’s class website. 2 April 2007 <http://www.cwrl.utexas.edu/~bump/E603B07/P4A.html>.

6. Image from www.piperreport.com.

7. www.campjohnmarc.org.

8. www.girlscouts-kickapoocouncil.org.
9. Ram Dass and Paul Gorman. How Can I Help? (New York: Alfred A. Knopf, Inc., 2005), 32.

 

 

 

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